Overworked and Overstressed?
You’re a professional. The person everyone turns to for answers. The right answers. Being that person carries a ton of responsibility. Being in charge means taking care of those you work for, those you work with, as well as your family. But, who takes care of you?
Brian: A Successful Attorney
Hired by his first choice of law firms right out of law school, Brian knew becoming partner would take 10 to 15 years and a lot of long hours. He made partner in nine.
For a litigator, arguing in the courtroom is nothing new. But, when Brian started coming to see me, his arguing had extended into the workplace as well as his home. The arguments with his wife were increasingly centered around his more frequent social drinking and his nightly nightcap of scotch.
“I feel terrible about some of the things I’ve said to my wife. It’s so hard for me to wind down after work. She used to understand, but now she just doesn’t get it.”
As far as Brian’s workplace behavior was concerned, one of the senior partners spoke with him about his aggressiveness in dealing with junior associates, administrative staff, and even the barista at the lobby coffee stand.
“I know my fuse is a little short sometimes. I’ve just been putting in a lot of hours.”
Brian’s doctor had recently prescribed Ambien for sleep as well as exercise to lose some weight. The Ambien left Brian feeling hungover, and his exercise was limited to the steps his Fitbit counted each day. Brian used to poke fun at the “rotund” litigators that he would see in and out of the courtroom. To his chagrin, he saw himself becoming “that guy.”
Brian told me he had always been a peak producer, but now he was less effective and his colleagues were starting to notice.
“I used to come to the office excited and ready to work. Now, the only thing I bring with me is exhaustion.”
Deep down, he knew that he should feel grateful for all that he had: an established career, a loving and supportive wife, three beautiful children, and a great network of friends and colleagues. Instead, he felt like a failure: drained, angry, depressed, embarrassed, and scared. Brian wanted to feel like himself again, but he didn’t know where to start.
Sometimes Strength and Determination Aren’t Enough
I’m Matt McNeil. I’ve worked with many people just like you and Brian.
Like so many people, it’s not that what you’ve done in the past didn’t work. It’s just that it’s not working anymore. Working harder, having more willpower, or simply plowing through isn’t the solution. Most people think (professionals, in particular) that you just “put in a few more hours” or “just dig down a little more.”
I think you’ll agree with me when I say that it’s hard to give up a strategy that you’ve been using for years, even if you know it’s not working for you anymore. Sometimes what you need is a different perspective.
I’ve got a pretty good idea about some of the thoughts that are going through your head right now. Thoughts like: “I’m already juggling more than I can do. How can I possibly add anything else?” or “I’ve been making things work just fine for the last 20 years, so why isn’t it working now?”
And I’m positive you’re thinking, “What do I have to do to fix this, and how long is it going to take?”
Throughout my career, I’ve helped professionals in high-demand, high-liability, high-stress occupations that require long hours. I have developed several direct, specific, and targeted methods in assisting people just like you to obtain measurable and sustainable results.
I can show you how you can get more out of what you are already doing so that you don’t have to take more time away from home, your family or anything else you would like to be doing with that time.
Although Brian was apprehensive at first, he scheduled an appointment to see if therapy or coaching was something that could help him. During our work, he found strategies and developed insights.
His strong will and determination proved to be huge assets as he worked to return his life to normal utilizing both in-office and online appointments to accommodate his demanding schedule.
In therapy, Brian learned new strategies to help calm his temper with others and to sleep more soundly without the use of alcohol or prescription medication. Brian learned effective ways of communicating with his family, co-workers, and even his clients. He adopted new habits that supported a healthier, more vibrant lifestyle.
Through coaching, Brian developed insight into how he relied upon unhealthy and inefficient strategies for dealing with the high demands of his job. He learned more efficient methods of working, increasing his energy and dramatically raising his productivity.
My Commitment to You Is Simple
Call me or fill out the form on this site’s contact page, and we will set up a complimentary 15-minute session to talk, either on the phone or via the internet (Zoom/Skype, etc.), whichever you prefer.
You will have my undivided attention while we discuss your challenges and explore solutions. I will give you my expert opinion on what my advice, instruction, and involvement will be that will yield your return on investment for my services.
If it looks like a good fit and it makes sense for us to work together, we will set up a plan. When we talk, we will discover together what isn’t working for you anymore and what changes might need to be made. Once that is done, we can develop a strategy. I will make sure you are on track and are moving in the right direction. If it doesn’t make sense for us to work together, I’ll make sure you’re in good hands for whatever path you choose.
Real Solutions, Real Results
With my direction, Brian worked hard to change his life and if you are willing to do the same, I can promise you real solutions with real results. The road may not be easy, but you have already overcome a myriad of obstacles just to get to where you are today.
You’re up to the challenge. I’ll be there to guide you every step of the way.
